Barry Reder, DDS

I appreciate you reaching out to me and I apologize for taking so long to respond. I would be more than happy to speak with you; however, I now live on the other side of the country and will not be returning to CA anytime soon. I do want to say that if I remember correctly, I was dealing with your son, not you specifically.
As a professional myself, I think it is important to keep that Dr./patient relationship a top priority. I think it’s wonderful you were able to reflect and take the comments in stride. It takes a very humble person to admit there was an issue and try to rectify it. That in itself says a lot about your character. I wish you the best of luck in your practice.

I’m pretty shocked reading some of these reviews. Dr. Reder is my kids new Dentist. I brought my four year old daughter and two year old son here four days ago for cleanings and we had a great experience. He seemed to like my kids and he has grandchildren so I’d have to disagree with the remarks stating he doesn’t like kids. Neither of my children needed dental work so I can’t comment on that but my husband, kids and I all really liked the office and the entire staff.

Dr. Reder has cared for my kids for the past almost two decades. One is 19 and the other 14. We have had nothing but the most wonderful experiences. He and his staff treat us all like family and I consider his practice one of our family’s treasures. As if that wasn’t enough, Dr. Reder is a generous supporter of kids baseball in his community. He also contributes to our warriors. There are many letters of appreciation adorning the walls of the waiting room. This is one of the finest men in our Oceanside city. I stand with him and applaud his great dentistry skills, his ebullient personality and his ‘from-​the-​heart’ generosity.

Nooooooo. If your kid actually needs dentistry this place is terrible. The staff is wonderful, and the office is loaded with toys and video games to entice the kids. The cleanings, x-​Rays, everything we had done that was handled by the staff and assistants we were happy with. But when it comes to the actual dentist, I have never experienced such terrible bed side manner from a professional before in my life. On one occasion I brought my then 4 year old daughter in because she had a scratch on her gums that wasn’t healing. Dr. Barry Reder gave no warning to what he was going to do to fix it. He cauterized the scratch without any warning to me or my daughter. Not a heads up, like «okay this might hurt a little bit» or walking us through the process or giving any kind of nod to what he was about to do. My daughter was obviously screaming because of this, meanwhile I’m standing there in terror, perplexed as to what the hell was happening. I literally had no idea what was happening. I only knew my daughter was in excruciating pain because of this man. When I confronted him about had just happened I was scolded, and told «this is why I usually have parents wait in the other room.» !!! WTH?! Are you kidding me?! Why do have a job caring for children when you clearly don’t even like them?
No need for a second terrible experience. I wouldn’t subject any child to sit in his chair, let alone my own.
Oh! Can we talk for a sec. about bed side manner in regards to topics of conversation? i.e. Talking about how he doesn’t want to be resuscitated were he to become unconscious because of the percent likelihood that he would have resulting brain damage?! And then going into graphic detail about how horrible that would be. And how he wants to get a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) tattoo behind his ear so who ever finds his body will just let him die so he won’t have to spend his life drooling on himself, etc., etc. Listen, that may be a great conversation to have with your power of attorney, Barry, but it’s not at all what you should be talking about when my 5 year old daughter is sitting in your chair waiting for her teeth to be examined. Talk about morbid and creepy.
My recommendation? Don’t go here. If you do, you’ll just end up on Unilocal writing something very similar to what I just did. Save yourself and your kids the trouble.

Responding to Dr Reder with his lovely response. I was an actual paying client to your office. My son was an actual patient of yours. I have the awful looking tooth in every one of his smiling pictures to prove it. Paid adds or not, whatever that means, you provided a service, and that service was not good, nor was the work you did. You behaved improperly to my son, and clearly did not take pride in your job as a PEDIATRIC dentist. You should be embarassed in your initial work with my son, and of your response here. I pride myself in being an honest person and my review was in no way a lie or embellished.
Awful, awful awful. When my son was 2, he fell and severely cracked his front baby tooth through the middle up into the gums. Very painful for anyone, let alone a 2 year old. Our then regular dentist recommended the father of this practice as it was a pretty delicate situation in a small mouth. My son was in pain, and I wanted him to get treatment ASAP so I didn’t shop around.
First off, the xray system used was old school. The bite plates they made my son use were entirely too large for his mouth and it HURT. The nurse had to retake a few times because my son barely moved and it blurred. After capturing what seemed like an decent one, Dr came in and SNAPPED at the nurse, then at me, for not keeping him still enough. So, back to xray.
Along with xray, he wants to do a visual exam of the tooth. So he has my son straddle me, then has me flip him upside down and pries his mouth open to look inside his mouth. My poor kid was scared, in pain, and now this.
Dr confirms the tooth is cracked, verifies it to me in the xray, and he has the workup written up. I couldn’t afford to pay for sedation (cash payment, but if I could, trust me I would have. Dr. assured me it would be ok without, and that my son would still have local of course) but I found it disturbing that they charged me somewhere around $ 85 for the use of one of those strap down boards for the procedure. Seriously?! Wow. wish that was all though. It gets worse.
So I pay for the services recommended. Root canal and a white cap since it’s his front tooth, he’s 2, and pulling isn’t optimal because it could affect his jaw down the road. We go into the room, I give my son a positive kiss and tell him I love him and he will be ok soon. I am asked to take a seat at the foot of the chair.
So I sit, staying out of the way of those in the room. My son is screaming, scared and I have my hand resting on his leg, trying to comfort him with reassuring words. I wasn’t freaking out, I wasn’t bawling maniacally, I was simply saying things like «it’s ok, it’ll be ok» every once in a while. Tears did stream down my face (100% out of my son’s view), but my voice was strong and I certainly wasn’t hysterical. (My daughter once split her forehead open and I had the Dr show me it went to the skull — I’m no stranger to being a level headed mom in a tough situation) Meanwhile Dr Barry Reder never once says anything to my son to try in any way to reassure him. The only time he spoke was to bark orders at nurses.
Anyway, this jerk of at dentist abruptly and rudely declares «Mom needs to go to the lobby if she’s going to be hysterical in my room» Oh… my…gosh. I was stunned! Hysterical?! But. against my true desire, and quite dazed I decided to leave the room and wait it out. I will always regret that.
My son was so traumatized by this experience, and I couldn’t even drive near the area for a year without him begging me not to take him to the dentist. Our post check up was pure torture getting him in the door. While I clearly understand most of this was because of the work itself, the dentists bedside manner made it significantly worse. He never once attempted to be kind to my child or to me. He didn’t smile, he snapped at both my son and me frequently, and his poor assistant seemed to walk on eggshells.
Then, at the end of this whole fiasco, they tried to charge me for the extra xrays they had to take because they turned out blury! I spent almost $ 1,000 and they were going to bilk me for more?
Long story short, from my experience I say run fast. Find a good dentist that actually likes kids.
Oh, and the tooth looked awful. 2 sizes too big and our current dentist was appalled at how bad the work was done. My son is 5 now, and it still doesn’t fit his mouth. I can’t wait for it to fall out. Poor kid looks like someone shoved a chicklet on his tooth literally looks like that. It’s ugly and in no way looks like a tooth. Just all around awful experience.

My son went to this dentist for about 10 years. Dr. Barry Reder and Dr. Seth Reder were always amazing. The appointments were timely, the no cavity club was an incentive for good hygiene for my son and the costs were always reasonable. The only reason we can no longer go is because my new work does not cover Dr. Reder for dental coverage. I am seriously considering to switching to a PPO the next open enrollment because the other dentists we have tried overcharged and were awful. I found Dr. Reder because my brother went to him as a child and I remembered it being a place where kids felt comfortable. In addition, I just read a random blog where I found out that Dr. Reder donated some of his services to an orphan from Ukraine who had never seen a dentist before. I could go on and on. I miss taking my kids here and hope to be back with my younger son when we work out our insurance situation. I could not give a higher recommendation for this amazing place!

My children have been patients of Dr. Reder for almost 14 years and neither has had a cavity ever. We drive almost a hour to see him because my children refuse to see anyone else. They love the game room, prizes for the no cavity club, but most importantly they love «Dr. Barry.» They feel very cared about while there and because of that, they love going to the dentist!

Brought my 5 yr. old here a few weeks ago and was very happy with the overall experience! My daughter hates going to the dentist but Dr. Reder and his staff made her feel very comfortable. They have a great game room for the kids including free arcade style games and some cool lizards. My daughter was very calm during the cleaning, because Dr. Reder was very calm and friendly with her. I will definitely bring her back here!

RUN!!! DO NOT TAKE ANYONE YOU LOVE HERE!!!
These people are monsters! My daughter might very well be traumatized for live. They wanted to strap her to a board and pull 9 teeth without anesthesia — saying it was OK because she «wouldn’t remember it later.» OMG, it is terrible. My insurance covered this which is good because I certainly wouldn’t pay if they billed me and I will vocalize my experience to each & every parent gathering I attend when asked about pediatric recommendation.

Despite some of the negative reviews we had a very good experience here.
This was my daughter’s first visit at the dentist. The front office staff were always welcoming and friendly. The décor is cute and this office is very kid friendly. The best thing about the visits were we didn’t mind waiting in the waiting room. They have lots of books, magazines, and games to keep the kids and yourself occupied. Lol! The rooms are also equipped with tv’s and it keeps the kids distracted during the exam. The doctors here if you notice are father and son. We saw both of the Doctors and they were both great! We always had a wonderful visit and they always made my daughter feel comfortable which made me happy!

My daughter is a patient of Dr. Seth Reder (the son in the practice) and all I can say is that I am sooooo lucky to have found him!!! Since I could only imagine how bad my daughters teeth wee gonna be knowing that her father and I have horrible teeth I wanted to go to someone I could trust. I was lucky enough to land Dr. Seth on my first try!!! He made Sophia feel comfertable from the very first handshake! She has had a number of cavaties that he handeled with care and comfert but now she is in the no cavatie club!!! I have several other friends and their kids go to Dr. seth also and LOVE and TRUST him!!! If you are new to the area you have to give him a try!!! My daughter doesn’t even mind going to the dentist… I wish I could say the same :)

Dr. Seth Reder (the son) is a great Dentist. He is very patient with the children. He explains everything to the parents AND does his best to layman down the info to accomodate his patients (the children). He is a big plus to pediatric dentistry. He’s got like a surprisingly relaxed, chill surfer attitude towards things it seems like. I can respect /​understand how patience like that would be difficult in this profession for sure, after all, some kids are gonna get anxious or cry no matter how slow or calm you take things. I know I couldn’t do it for a living. I’m very glad that we found him for our children.
Also, It’s nice to see that most of his staff are very understanding of the what it takes to be part of a «Pediatric» setting.
I’m sorry to say that I haven’t heard very good things about Dr. Reder Sr. though, my kids are seldom seen by him, but he does seem a little more impatient. He is an older gentleman, and probably should retire if he’s not enjoying the practice as much anymore. sorry.

I was a patient of Dr. Barry Radar’s until I was 12 years old. To sum it all up, he pulled 17 teeth from my mouth (4 being permanent), tried practicing orthodontics without a license or education, and in the end my parents had to pay $ 35,000+ out of pocket to repair my mouth. I am now 21 and still waiting to have my smile back. 2 rounds of braces (only because I needed even MORE space) and 4 dental implants later, a big THANKS to Dr. Radar. And we couldn’t sue him because it had been over 2 years since the teeth were pulled. But you can surely bet he was turned into the Dental Association in San Diego!

A great place and a great pediatric dentist! He has lots of goodies for kids who are keeping their teeth healthy. My son got toy sunglasses and other loots! I turned red when Dr. Reder caught me playing space invaders at the waiting room… lol. He also has lizardsin there for kids to check out. Staff are very friendly and try their best to make children, especially toddlers, feel comfortable. I thank my son’s pediatrician, Dr. Goldberg, for the referral.